If you are in the midst of a divorce, considering a divorce, or just have a bad feeling about where your marriage is heading, you have come to right place. This is an active site where you can do your research, get divorce tips and tactics, or even just ask a question. Information is the key to really understanding what is happening in your case and it helps you to make crucial decisions that can and will make a big difference.
You first have to recognize that a divorce is highly unpredictable. It can sneak up on you when you least expect it. It can go smoothly with no hitches, or it can turn into a nasty legal battle. But heed my warning, you have to be prepared for just about anything. If you are too confident, then that is when you will get burned. I am living proof of that!
Before you continue consider this… Is a divorce really what you see in your future? I know that a lot of men become concerned when they have the feeling that things just aren’t going right, but jumping the gun can really end up making things worse. You are free to do your research, but if a divorce is not where you want to be heading then there are ways to get your marriage back on track. If you find that your main excuse for considering a divorce is because it is just not “the way it used to be” then you might want to concentrate getting back to those days. If you are one of these guys then I recommend that you at least take a couple of minutes and look at “Save My Marriage Today”. They have guides, study courses and other resources that have been proven time and time again to pull a marriage back from the brink of a divorce.
And if that does not work in the long run, at least you can say that you tried. That you are not that the terrible husband/father that they will try to make you out to be. Anyway now back to the reason that you are here!!
My name is Chris, and I have found out the hard way that no matter how well you think your divorce is proceeding, nothing and I mean nothing is finished until that judge signs off on that piece of paper and you have a divorce decree in your hands. I am not a divorce attorney, nor do I ever want to be one. But I have spent hundreds of hours researching divorce for my own case, and have found out that you can never know too much when you have so much at stake.
I have learned a whole lot about divorce in the last year and I have come to the decision that it is my duty to make sure that you have all the information that you need to make the right moves and decisions during your ordeal. I probably do not have to tell you that most, if not all, divorce laws favor women. This goes way back to the days where it was considered the man’s duty to take care of his wife, which usually meant monetarily, and that they were somehow helpless to take care of themselves if you were ever to divorce them. This is why you’ll find that the wife often ends up with the home, the kids, alimony, child support, most of your savings and even 50% of the retirement that you earned while you were married. This can happen regardless if she has her own job and makes just about as much money as you do.
Do Not Get Me Wrong… I am not a “woman-hater”! That is definitely not the point of this site. But I am frustrated by how the wife is always looked at as the victim in a divorce. Time and society is changing and women are just as capable as men when it comes to living their own lives and taking care of themselves. But that hasn’t changed any divorce laws, and the wife, regardless of her status, often times plays the victim very well. If they can’t do it themselves, you can be guaranteed that their divorce attorney will do it for them!
The minute that you don’t think that will happen to you, is the minute that you could lose everything. Whenever anyone asks me why is my ex doing all this to me, I always like to use this quote from a popular woman’s divorce book that I have read…
“Women, Learn The Secrets That Guarantee You a Successful Divorce Without Reducing Your Lifestyle while Securing Your Financial Future and Making Your Husband Pay For ALL The Costs! (Even Your Attorney Fees…)”
That is the biggest part of the problem! They are taught that their divorce is not successful unless they are able to squeeze everything they can out of you. And let’s face it, they are no different than anyone else. If they can get something more out of it, and people (friends, family, divorce attorneys) all around them tell them they can, then they will fight for it. If there is anything that you take out of this make sure you know that the woman you are divorcing is not the same woman that you married!
Please take some time to look over this site! I am trying to include everything that I can find when it comes to a divorce, so that you will be prepared and the chances of you being surprised by some unexpected court order and/or a big fat attorney bill will slowly and surely decrease to nothing. New pages and articles will be posted on a regular basis and will show up on the list to the right. I also encourage anyone to share your comments, experiences, questions, and even disagreements. That will only work to make this site even stronger.
(Quick Note: I want to apologize to all my visitors who have sent me questions about their divorce and not received a response yet. I have been overwhelmed by the number of visitors to this site, and I have not had enough time in the day to answer all questions with the kind of attention that they deserve. Please bear with me as I am devising a solution to this problem. Again, I am sorry!)