My ex lives with his fiance’ in her mortgage free home and she provides him with an SUV that she has no payments on. They both work. I was a stay-at-home-mom and was awarded alimony. After not even one year, this ex is petitioning the court to lower his payments to me. I trust he will have to prove expenses, as i pay more in rent, utilities, food, and gas than he does. I am on my own and at 60 years old haven’t found work.

I am in a relationship with a great guy that has gone through nothing short of hell in his divorce. His ex kicked him out of their house while he was on a business trip, hacked into his email and the website he owns and turned it off, then took all the money out of their joint accounts, had a check mailed to her from his Google account (which she can deposit into their joint account and then take it out), reported him to DHS as abusing their middle child, went on state assistance claiming she had no money because he had left her with 3 kids and only $20, all before he was home from business for 5 days.

He got the first DHS claim dropped as unfounded, but when she couldn’t get him on that it got even nastier. She claimed he sexually abused their oldest daughter. Because she had the kids with her all the time and limited when he could see them, she began feeding lies to the children. Next thing he knows, he’s getting another email from DHS saying that there is a no contact order on him (actually not true, only a no contact agreement between DHS and the mom) then he has to be interrogated by police. When nothing is going on, she put a danger order in with the court even though the kids were in no danger because he hadn’t seen them in over a month. Because of all of this, he was forced to pay $5k to get a criminal defense lawyer. He had to then do a psycho-sexual evaluation (being subjected to some disturbing tests). Once he came back as perfectly normal and healthy, DHS closed the case and the DA decided that there wasn’t anything to prosecute so he was finally able to see the kids again. He has to pay his ex $500 in Alimony and $1580 in Child Support. He has to pay all their joint debts, which includes a bankruptcy that she put them in because she wanted to have a big house, and a Mercedes SUV she bought without him knowing. This only leaves him with $800 a month to live on. Luckily I make good money and we live off that together, but it’s amazing the power that women have and how rigged the system is against men.

His ex complains all the time about how little money she gets from him, while she works part time teaching Zumba. My bf and I pay for the kids to have clothes and shoes, but she complains about that all the time too so, my bf doesn’t want to buy them things anymore. He also has over $7k in attorney’s fees to pay back. It’s a system that is definitely in need of an overhaul. Not just divorce laws, but the other systems in place like DHS/CPS who are all too willing to crucify the innocent. Facts are not in their line of business. I mean, if someone is married for 12 years and never has an issue until there is a divorce perhaps there needs to be a little more logic in noticing that the timing is awfully convenient and that perhaps there is more lying than facts being presented to them.

Men, I say to you, if you think that this is going to be ugly… Try your hardest to get a GOOD lawyer. I know that it’s a lot of money to come up with, but if you get a good lawyer and they really know what they are doing and have the experience, you won’t be screwed over as badly as my bf was. He had it so bad with having to pay for the criminal defense lawyer that he couldn’t afford a good family law attorney and trust me when I say that YOU GET WHAT YOU PAY FOR. A new lawyer or inexperienced lawyer is not what you need if your case is difficult or complicated. In the long run, the experience is worth every penny.

Thanks for having a site to help those guys that happened to marry some really sorry excuses of what a woman is. Real women, no matter the hurt, never cause so much pain and suffering to not only their ex’s, but realize that everything she does has an effect on her precious children who will learn that it’s okay to lie, steal, cheat, and manipulate to try to get what you want.

With his youngest girl leaving for school, he also wants to leave the marriage. They have not had ANY marital relations in over 10 years. He didn’t want his girls to grow up without him and she would have done just that given the chance. He wants a life. They tell him not only will she get 1/2 of his 401k, he will have to most likely pay 1/3 of his monthly net BECAUSE SHE IS A LAZY BITCH! There is nothing stopping her from getting a job.

I am a single mom and at times have worked two jobs if needed. My ex helped me get pregnant, so yes he should help with the cost of raising the kids. However, he isn’t and shouldn’t be responsible for me, I am a big girl and can and do take care of myself. As should his soon to be ex-wife.