There is something that all men need to be aware of during any divorce. It doesn’t matter if you think that everything is going smoothly, or if you are trying to be as civil as possible. There is always the possibility that your soon to be ex-wife will make some false accusation against you to make you look bad. This could include anything from a verbal altercation that she could portray as a threat or to other extremes such as accusations of physical abuse against her or even your children. Again, never underestimate what could happen once your wife is under the influence of a divorce attorney. Especially one that has enough experience to know what kind of dirty tactics will give them the upper hand in the divorce.
You should always look to protect yourself when you are in contact with your wife. Never air your frustrations in a way that she can present it to the judge as hard evidence. This includes everything from text messages, e-mails, letters, blogs, to profiles on social networks, like myspace or facebook. Even in you had a mere lapse in judgment, she can use it to show the world of how much of a terrible husband you were. And I promise you that the judge will get a copy of it before you even have the chance to hit the delete button.
It is also highly suggested that you record every conversation in person that you have with your wife during the divorce process. Remember, you cannot record phone calls (unless you tell them that you are recording it beforehand), but you can record face to face conversations. This will help you to prove your case if she was to make an accusation that you threatened or caused other harm to her. If you can’t record it then make sure that there is another adult present that you trust who can vouch for what really happened. DO NOT rely on your kids for this! Pitting your children against one parent or the other is bad, not to mention that it won’t sit well with the judge. All it takes is one time where you have the evidence to refute any of your wife’s false accusations for the judge to realize what she is up to.
If you carefully plan every meeting that you have with your soon to be ex, then you shouldn’t have to worry about what false accusations are made against you. Just take the necessary precautions, keep your cool, and be the better person. Give her the chance to slip up and your divorce will go that much easier for you.
Update: If you are already in a situation where a false protection order has been filed against you, then you may need expert advice that I can’t provide here. A good place to start is this website offering information on how to successfully fight a false protection order.