For years, my mom tried to take my daughter and I told her while i was ill. I told her “No, I know you you will just dump her into the foster system when you tire of her like you dumped my brother and I as soon as we were 18 but still seniors in high school” and ” I may be very ill but I love her.” I do know my mom started buying my daughter stuff and influencing her. My daughter was almost exclusively hanging out with kids on drugs though I did not allow her to in my care, but good luck keeping a 15 year old off the smoking corner on a open campus high school . Long story short the more my mom backed my daughter and undermined my athority by using CYFD, the less my daughter listened to me, and in the end, my daughter even started hitting me and walking out the door when she felt like it.

All this happening and I’m still fairly ill and CYFD knocking on my door. After 3 call responses from CYFD, I was at a meeting where CYFD was explaining to me the reasons they were going to remove my child. Basically, I was just there to be pressured into giving her up and maybe have some say where she went or face charges. It was not until then that they even told me some about what i was being accused of. But had a clue from their previous interrogations so I showed up with three witnesses and was lucky enough to be vindicated. It really helped that my daughter’s real therapist came directly to our home twice a week and she was at the meeting. (I had already signed my daughter up for an intensive intervention program).

That wasn’t the end of it though, my mother hired one of the most aggressive, smart attorneys in the area and got my daughter with a restraining order. Thousands of dollars later in attorney fees and hopes for putting my daughter in a really good therapy work ranch kind of thing died, I gave in and signed a deal giving up my parental rights. My father, who lost me and my brother very young to a similar lies told by my mom, was begging me to sign, as were all my friends and my attorney, saying I was too sick and poor to survive a witch hunt or a beating from my daughter.So now I’m not allowed to even send her a christmas card, and except for my father whose side of the family I don’t know, my mother’s side believes I’m a child abuser. My dad says my mom was diagnosed with sociopathic traits, and with her high IQ, she has managed to destroy other lives without repercussion.

I was glad to see this site. I have a guy friend who is in love with me, in the middle of divorcing his wife, and his story is also a sad one. His wife told me herself, she never loved him but married him because she thought he was hard to anger and would be a good provider. He stayed to raise his kids after she confessed her lack of love. Personally, I’m just starting to advocate for others. I do not believe that simply “he said-she said” cases should be allowed in our justice system. I still believe people should be innocent until proven guilty. Sadly in some states, no real proof is required to lose a child. I apologize for my spelling, I’m dyslexic and need a smartphone with a better spellchecker… lol.

I’m so sorry for you problems. I’m going through something similar. I met my wife 10 years ago, and from day one she has given me nothing buy grief. She has had multiple affairs, ruined me financially, and aborted two of my children. We have been separated on multiple occassions, however the most recent resulted in a physical confrontation between the two of us. I am convinced that the overall quality of women has been in steady decline for decades. You will survive man…So will I…but we have to learn to be hard-asses. Screw them! I won’t let some idiot woman destroy me. Sounds like you were married to a real class act as well. Give her hell Mike!