My wife was committed to a mental institution after she abandoned me and her children on two occassions, she tried to commit suicide, and was diagnosed as bipolar. Do I have a snowball’s chance in hell of getting custody of my kids?

My wife has accumulated a lot of medical bills, she would not ask for any help with the medical bills. Will I be held responsible for all of her bills if they have her name on the bill?

Our home is in my mother’s name and I have a signed lease agreement with her. Ninety percent of the furnishings and appliances and ect was given to me by my mother and other family members. Can she try to get my house? Can she get the other items as well?

Up until 2009, I has a higher salary than her, but I was caught up in the recession and lost my job. I took a job in 2010 that paid about half what I was making and only recently have another job paying close to my 2009 salary.

My two reasons for which I’m considering divorcing my wife are: 1.) I have “lost” interest in her physically and do not really want to be intimate with her because of reasons that I won’t mention at this time. 2.) My wife gives money to her family both secretly and telling me. She has continually put us in financially difficult situations and her reasoning is that she “earned” her money and I have NO right to tell her what she can or cannot do with it. We have supported her family over the past 8 years giving them over 12-13 thousand dollars. Pleas Help!!!!

Her parents gave us a house free and clear without any paperwork on it. Now they realized the mistake and they know their daughter screwed up. All of the sudden, I am money driven. I am back in the house for my kids and I am so happy with that.

Look at the bright side… Love yourself first and don’t degrade yourself any longer. BE STRONG AND DON’T FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF! SHE HAS TO SEE YOU AS STRONG. DO THIS FOR YOURSELF.

In some way I feel like she set this whole thing up, the timing is just a little strange.

All of a sudden she just up and abandoned me, knowing I can’t take care of myself very well. It’s like she has been planning everything for a while. Then she filed a protection (restraining) order against me and had an emergency court date set for the very next morning after accusing me of rape and unwanted advances. Luckily, the judge saw right through it and threw the case out.

The sad thing is, even with all the hell she’s put me through over the last week or so, I still love her and am still in love with her… which is why this whole thing hurt so much. She on the other hand shows no love towards me, which is what hurts even more.

I am glad i saw this website, very informative and actually i am learning things for the first time. Thank you guys for all who support men / Father who longs to keep a family.

My situation is i am an permanent resident and my wife is a dependent of my status to be in U.S. in 6 weeks of coming to U.S she had abandoned both my daughter (who is 3 at that time) and me. It is now 2 1/2 yrs i have raised my child all by myself as single parent without a penny from her or any physical help from anyone else in these years.

Now she wants divorce and the child and is thinking of spousal support and wants to Join college studies which can be a huge tuition.

What should i do? Does her college enrollment and if she takes a loan am i responsible to pay for it? we are planning to get a divorce but not sure if it is going to be uncontested. please give me suggestions, thanks in advance.

You are in a tricky situation. There are 2 things you probably should consider. First if you dissuade her, you may hindering her chance at making a self-sustaining income, which could end up costing you in alimony payments. Remember, alimony payments are usually based on what it takes to keep an ex-wife in the same standard of living that they have been accustomed to during the marriage. If they cannot do that on their own then you would most likely have to pay the difference. With more education she would be closer to that earning that same “standard of living”.

But on the opposite end, if you are paying for her courses now and end up getting a divorce in the mean time, you could be ordered to continue to pay for the courses until she attains some sort of degree. There is some good in this though. Think of it like paying your way out of future alimony, and you know that the money is going towards a good cause. Also, there is a higher likelihood that she would qualify for more college assistance (ie grants) after she is divorced, which could also lower your monetary obligation.

To me it just seems that if you choose to try and dissuade her it may come back to bite you later, if you happen to get a divorce. But of course, ultimately the decision is up to you.

Hope this helps…

Chris

(Disclaimer: Remember, I don’t have a law degree, I am not a divorce attorney and any information and/or opinions that I provide should not be construed as legal advice.)

I am glad that this site was able to help you even if it is just a little bit. If you are able to stay on top of things from the beginning, then you will have a much better chance of getting a favorable outcome.

Come back to the site soon as I have some more information that I will be writing about in the near future.

Chris

Once again Thank You
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Donovan Davis